Dating a black dude

The cinematic trope of people of color meeting their White romantic partner’s parents dates back at least as far as the trailblazing 1967 film “Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner?” Comedian and actor Jordan Peele’s (“Key and Peele”) directorial debut, “Get Out,” elevates the sinister potential behind that basic premise to psychological terror.Because of this, I have dated quite a few White guys, and while there are similarities when dating any man, there are still some small cultural quirks that never go unnoticed when you’re with a White dude. Trust me, while it gets easier to explain, it doesn't ever stop needing to be explained.2.They don't want to say the N-word, but they do want to talk about why some people do.They will always be embarrassed about fried chicken. While you might be dreading meeting older family members due to 50 years of internalized racism, he just as much fears that your family wants to retaliate for having to endure ignorance while they were coming up. Talk to your family, and if they don't want to meet him, sit with that. You shouldn't not see a man just because your family has prejudices, and the same goes for his family.6. I had never listened to Radiohead before dating my last boyfriend, even though I had heard they were a pretty influential contemporary band. If you want to point out your melanin difference, there are loads of costumes you can partake in.Every damn body loves fried chicken, but now he's far too aware of the stereotypes associated and will be torn about it every time you pass a KFC.4. As much as we live in a post-racial society , their friends may not be as enlightened as they are. Seasoning skills are not something you are born with. Maybe he doesn't know the words to "Creep" by TLC, but you don't know the words to "Creep" by Radiohead either, so be open to those experiences. Be Uhura and Spock from Star Trek, be Pocahontas and John Smith--or, you can blow everyone's minds and go as just a pumpkin or a witch. But, you can definitely take yourselves less seriously on October 31st each year.9.The weekend getaway goes from awkward to horrifying via hypnosis, strange housekeepers and what looks like an attempted fade via lacrosse stick.There is this notion that after dealing with one two many Black f*ckboys–I specify because they do come in all colors– Black women are turning to men of other races, specifically White men.

And while I’m sure it doesn’t matter to these sect of butt hurt Black men, it is interesting to note that Rihanna’s new boy toy is not White.

Oh yeah, it’s a horror flick that also incorporates interracial dating, Black people in horror movie stereotypes, fear of white people and a hint of bugged out comedy.

Chris (Daniel Kaluuya), the Black guy, is off with his girlfriend, Rose (Allison Williams), the white girl, to meet her parents for the first time.

But despite that irrefutable fact, Black men were none too pleased about the new development.

I mean, these fools were–and likely still are– truly pressed.

Leave a Reply